This is one I found in the discount bin at my local library sale so I didn’t have a lot of expectations but this teen novel set in a dystopian future exceeded my meagre wishes. This was a story of growing up, questioning absolute authority, finding the path to walk on, making a choice and standing up for the core truths despite danger.
If you love suspense and love a GOOD Stephen King adaptation, you might want to decide to watch Gerald’s Game on Netflix and oh boy, I was happy with what they’ve done. Ever since watching “A Good Marriage” I have been waiting for someone who has guts to tackle Gerald’s Game and make it into a feature length movie. Thank you Netflix!
by R M Banerjee
Delayed marriage is one of the most pressing problems which riddles the modern society of India. Whatever be the social, economic, educational and demographic reasons behind this malaise, there is no denial of the fact that practicing astrologers and columnists in astrological magazine are being continuously pestered with questions from anxious parents who are very eager to see their sons and daughters matrimonially settled in life. When eligible young boys and girls, in spite of their best efforts, fail to get suitable match for them, they rush to astrologers out of desperation for relief and advice.
In this small article, an attempt has been made to show, with the help of practical examples that Saturn is the main planet behind most of the cases on delayed marriages. Though there may be other planets playing their roles in this specific context are more or less of contributory nature aggravating the basic trend set by Saturn in a birth chart.
Anna is a bored married woman. Anna is passive and loves to see other take charge of her life until she decides she wants to have an affair. Anna has multiple affairs and then her life spirals down until she needs to take control over her own actions once more. And she does..
“IS THERE A DIFFERENCE between shame and guilt?” Anna asked. “Shame is psychic extortion,” Doktor Messerli answered. “Shame lies. Shame a woman and she will believe she is fundamentally wrong, organically delinquent. The only confidence she will have will be in her failures. You will never convince her otherwise.”
I have read Oryx and Crake earlier this year and I could not resist the pull of Margaret Atwood. I saw a tattered paperback smiling at me from a charity window, £1 for a great classic. I paid the meagre price and I got back a lot more than I was expecting. Witty, funny, deeply cutting, a book about a modern woman of the 21st century living in the 60’s – when the morals were a lot stricter and the definition of a woman was who she married.
The story could be summarised in one sentence but as most self-discovery books are, it’s deeper than the surface:
Marian, a 20-something woman in 1960s Toronto, gets engaged to her dull-but-respectable lawyer boyfriend, Peter, then soon begins losing her appetite for food
Dearly Beloved, we are gathered together here in the sign of God – and in the face of this company – to join together this man and this woman in holy matrimony, which is commended to be honorable among all men; and therefore – is not by any – to be entered into unadvisedly or lightly – but reverently, discreetly, advisedly and solemnly. Into this holy estate these two persons present now come to be joined. If any person can show just cause why they may not be joined together – let them speak now or forever hold their peace.
Marriage is the union of husband and wife in heart, body and mind. It is intended for their mutual joy – and for the help and comfort given on another in prosperity and adversity. But more importantly – it is a means through which a stable and loving environment may be attained.
Through marriage, they make a commitment together to face their disappointments – embrace their dreams – realize their hopes – and accept each other’s failures. They will promise one another to aspire to these ideals throughout their lives together – through mutual understanding – openness – and sensitivity to each other.
We are here today – before God – because marriage is one of His most sacred wishes – to witness the joining in marriage of these two. This occasion marks the celebration of love and commitment with which this man (or woman) and this woman (or man) begin their life together. And now – through me – He joins you together in one of the holiest bonds.
This is a beginning and a continuation of their growth as individuals. With mutual care, respect, responsibility and knowledge comes the affirmation of each one’s own life happiness, growth and freedom. With respect for individual boundaries comes the freedom to love unconditionally. Within the emotional safety of a loving relationship – the knowledge self-offered one another becomes the fertile soil for continued growth. With care and responsibility towards self and one another comes the potential for full and happy lives.
By gathering together all the wishes of happiness and our fondest hopes for these two here from all present, we assure them that our hearts are in tune with theirs. These moments are so meaningful to all of us, for “what greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel that they are joined together – to strengthen each other in all labor – to minister to each other in all sorrow – to share with each other in all gladness.
This relationship stands for love, loyalty, honesty and trust, but most of all for friendship. Before they knew love, they were friends, and it was from this seed of friendship that is their destiny. Do not think that you can direct the course of love – for love, if it finds you worthy, shall direct you.
Marriage is an act of faith and a personal commitment as well as a moral and physical union between two people. Marriage has been described as the best and most important relationship that can exist between them.
It is the construction of their love and trust into a single growing energy of spiritual life. It is amoral commitment that requires and deserves daily attention. Marriage should be a life long consecration of the ideal of loving kindness – backed with the will to make it last.
Do you take her to be your wife – to live together after God’s ordinance – in the holy estate of matrimony? Will you love her, comfort her, honor and keep her, in sickness and in health, for richer, for poorer, for better, for worse, in sadness and in joy, to cherish and continually bestow upon her your heart’s deepest devotion, forsaking all others, keep yourself only unto her as long as you both shall live?
MINISTER TO BRIDE:
Do you take him to be your husband – to live together after God’s ordinance – in the holy estate of matrimony? Will you love him, comfort him, honor and keep him, in sickness and in health, for richer, for poorer, for better, for worse, in sadness and in joy, to cherish and continually bestow upon him your heart’s deepest devotion, forsaking all others, keep yourself only unto him as long as you both shall live?
Exchange of Wedding Rings
What token of your love do you offer? Would you place the ring(s) in my hand?
May this/these ring(s) be blessed as the symbol of this affectionate unity. These two lives are now joined in one unbroken circle. Wherever they go – may they always return to one another. May these two find in each other the love for which all men and women year. May they grow in understanding and in compassion. May the home which they establish together be such a place that many will find there a friend. May this/these ring(s) on her/their finger(s) symbolize the touch of the spirit of love in their hearts.
May you always share with each other the gifts of love – be one in heart and in mind – may you always create a home together that puts in your hearts – love – generosity and kindness.
You have pronounced yourselves partners in marriage but remember to always be each other’s best friend.
What – therefore – God has joined together – let no man put asunder.
And so, by the power vested in me by the Almighty God, I now pronounce you man and wife – and may your days be good and long upon the earth.
You may now kiss the bride/groom.