Book Reviews

Gerry Spence – How To Argue And Win Every Time Book Review

(St. Martin’s Press, N.Y. 1995) A New York Times best seller, translated and sold in twenty-three foreign countries. This book has become a bedside guide for every day living. Still it has become a text for law schools and universities. “How to Argue and Win Every Time is more than just a book about argument; it’s the outline on how to live.” -Larry King

How to Argue and Win Every Time is a book that teaches you how to argue in everyday life—at home, in the bedroom, with the boss, with teachers, and with your kids. But it is also a book with sweeping implications for American society, for at its heart, it proposes a new philosophy—that winning is not what you think it is and that your enemy’s loss may be your loss as well.

Growing Up

Housecleaning Shortcuts that Slash your Time

Now that Spring Clean is on the menu, we can have a look at different methods and options to shorten your cleaning time.

Sometimes it seems like housecleaning is a never-ending, time-consuming chore. Just when we thought we had a day or two off from work, then we have to spend our free time cleaning instead.

However, housecleaning doesn’t have to consume your free time. With some clever ideas and time-saving actions, you can slash your cleaning time and have time to spend with your family doing the things you enjoy the most.

Growing Up

Kick your Pack Rat Tendencies to the Curb

Most people who define themselves as a packrat usually hate to get rid of their belongings because they might need it down the road.

The main problem for a pack rat is what to do with all the stuff he or she accumulates.

Being a good organizer does not necessarily mean you have to get rid of everything you have, but it does mean keeping things in an organized and orderly fashion so that when the time does come to use it, you’ll be able to find it. Organized pack rats usually find space to store their stuff in one place.

Baby Care

Teaching a toddler to walk

Exercise is essentially important to the health of the infant. Its first exercise, of course, will be in the nurse’s arms.

Close up of baby grabbing feet
Close up of baby grabbing feet

After a month or two, when it begins to sleep less during the day, it will delight to roll and kick about on the sofa: it will thus use its limbs freely; and this, with carrying out into the open air, is all the exercise it requires at this period. By and by, however, the child will make its first attempts to walk. Now it is important that none of the many plans which have been devised to teach a child to walk, should be adopted the go-cart, leading-strings, etc.; their tendency is mischievous; and flatness of the chest, confined lungs, distorted spine, and deformed legs, are so many evils which often originate in such practices.



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Romance Books

The art of kissing

Knowing how to kiss someone might be the best thing you can do (as a responsible adult)

Any man who can drive safely while kissing a pretty girl is simply not giving the kiss the attention it deserves.

Growing Up

Coloring Your Hair

Blonde Hair is hard to take care ofHair Colors
Coloring your hair is perhaps the quickest and most dramatic way to change your look. It is also an excuse to go out and buy a new wardrobe of clothes, because you’ll find that what suited you as a brunette looks rather drab on a new blonde.
There are two types of hair dyes: permanent and semi-permanent, with variations of each.
A) Permanent Tints:
Must be mixed with hydrogen peroxide to lift hair color. The peroxide opens the hair cuticle so that the tint can penetrate the cortex and form the color. The higher the level of peroxide, the quicker and lighter the result.
B) Semi-Permanent Colors:
They don’t actually lift the color – you can either vary the tone within your natural highlights or go darker. Quasi-color contains ethanolamine and 3% peroxide which slightly opens the cuticle. This means that the color can last up to 20 washes and will softly fade as you shampoo, causing no regrowth problem.
C) Semi-Permanent Vegetable Colors:
Contain only vegetable extracts and natural ingredients, so no color is stripped from your hair. It is similar to henna but it doesn’t coat the hair (adds shine though). This color sits on the hair’s surface and will wash out after about 8 shampoos.
Different coloring methods suit different hair styles, so get some expert advice when deciding which one to go for…
Skin Tone: Your new hair color should complement your skin tone. Light-skinned people don’t look good with very dark hair because it draws color out of their skin. Dark, tanned skin doesn’t look great when mixed with a one-tone blonde, but four or five blonde, chestnut or honey tones look fabulous.
If you would love to be blonde, talk the process through with your colorist (or stylist) before you go for it. It should be relatively painless on virgin dark brown hair, but if your hair has been permanently tinted then the process will become a long saga.
Never attempt this kind of dye job on your own for the first time.
Red is the ultimate sexy shade, for color that cries out for attention. Hair holds on to red-toned pigments well, so going copper-top can be easy for most people.
But be warned – if you are blonde you will usually have to go two or three shades darker than your natural color to achieve a rich red (brunette), and it’s not easy to reverse it.
Brunette is always a safe choice as it suits nearly every girl in town. Varying the shade with highlights can achieve a huge range of looks. From chocolate brown and bronze shades to honey or dark blonde, combinations of natural tones gives incredible shine as darker-pigmented tints add condition to your hair.
This is by far the easiest color to accomplish because the molecules in black tints are larger and will cover all hair types very effectively. Caution is needed when using black as it only tends to look good on people with darker and olive skin tones. it’s great for getting the goth look, but definitely not for your granny.
Some popular coloring questions:
* Will coloring my hair damage it?
Only if the wrong level of peroxide is used or you are over-processing (too many permanent colors are applied) your hair. If you constantly change your hair color , especially if you go from blonde to brown and back to blonde, you must regularly use deep conditioning treatments.
* Why can colored hair look dull?
Over-processing is the biggest reason. If your hair is starting to look dull, use semi-permanent colors where the pigments sit on top of the hair adding plenty of tone and shine.
* What’s better for my hair, semi-permanent or permanent color?
Semi-permanent color give your hair a higher shine and enhance condition, but they won’t lift natural hair color. Also, a semi-permanent tint will not cover large amount of grey hair (more than 50%).
If a permanent tint is used correctly, you will always achieve a beautiful effect and semi-permanent tints can be used to maintain these permanent treatments, adding condition.

Growing Up

The Beauty Foods

What to eatWhat To Eat Each Day For Looks And Health
Apple Cider Vinegar
Beside having amazing healing properties, apple cider vinegar keeps skin supple. It’s heavy concentration of enzymes helps peel off dead skin cells. It breaks down fat and helps food digest properly.
Maintain the outer layer of the skin to prevent premature aging. What you’ll find in is the same as you’ll get in Retin A.
To ensure a happy smile, add a slice or two of hard cheeese into your diet. Choose Swiss, cheddar, or gouda to block bacteria in the mouth and prevent cavities.
Citrus Fruits
Hold the skin cells together by forming collagen. Collagen cannot be added to the skin topically, which is why fruits and fruit juices are such an important part of the daily diet.
Keep urinary tract lining healthy.
Helps combat wrinkles and restores tissue.
Nonfat Yogurt
High in calcium, which keeps your smile white and your teeth cavity-free.
Sweet Potatoes Vitamin A is known to be a remarkable anti-wrinkling agent. Sweet potatoes are full of this important vitamin. The pleasing results is clearer, smoother skin.
These “love apples” will keep you loving your skin. Tomatoes are rich in vitamin A, vitamin C, and potassium.
Wheat Germ
If you want to get rid of pimples quickly and efficiently, make sure to include two or three tablespoons a day in your diet. Add it to cereal, yogurt, and cottage cheese.
You should choose foods that you enjoy, of course, but you need to include the following:
Three to five servings daily. Try to include one serving of raw, leafy greens.
Have no more than three three ounce servings a day. Cut off all fat. Try to make two servings of turkey or chicken. One serving of fish a day is ideal.
Two to three servings daily. A 1/2 cup of chopped or sliced fruit is a serving.
At least two servings daily. A serving would be eight ounces of milk or yogurt.
Salad dressing, cooking oil, butter, and mayonnaise should be limited to two servings a day.


Psycho ex-es and the problems with separating from them

Wanted to break up but couldn’t in fear of an injury?

Psycho ExStuck with a Psycho Ex?

There is evidence that some women are more susceptible to destructive behavior than others. The goal is to spot these gals before things get out of control, and know how to handle a potentially dangerous situation.
She’s irrationally jealous
A little jealousy can be healthy for the relationship, but when it becomes irrational and leads your lovebird to start testing you or checking up on you every hour on the hour when you’re apart, you might have a potential stalker on your hands.

Be wary of women who call a few times late at night or even in the early hours of the morning. Some women even go as low as getting one of their girlfriends to seduce you in order to test your loyalty and see if you’ll bite.

She commits embarrassing public displays
If she likes to scream and scold you loudly and in public, then she’s showing early signs of an individual who likes to have control at all costs — including embarrassment — to achieve her goals.

She’s emotionally unstable
If you can’t tell the difference between her being happy, mad or sad by looking at her facial expressions, then you might have a problem.

Sure women are known to be emotional, but that doesn’t mean that she has to cry every five minutes when she doesn’t get what she wants. Be especially careful with those women who end their crocodile tears with loud, devilish laughter.
She controls your life
Your new favorite color is pink, apparently tofu tastes better than steak, figure skating has become more exciting than hockey, and now you absolutely cringe when looking at beautiful women with big breasts.

Be cautious of women who like to impose their likes and dislikes upon men — especially those who say, “I know you don’t like it honey, but trust me, what I’m doing will be good for the relationship. You’ll thank me one day.”

She needs constant attention
She cannot spend a moment without speaking to you, or calls your portable phone, your home, pages you, then calls your portable, your home, and then back to your portable, your home, and leaves the following message: “I know you’re home, pick up the phone.” Then calls your portable phone, your home, pages you, then calls your portable… you get the point.

She makes paranoid assumptions
If you can’t come home late from work (I’m talking 5 minutes late here) without her asking to smell your penis, or if you happen to look at another woman, and she asks, “So would you f*ck her? Huh? Would you f*ck her, you bastard?”, then you might be in bigger trouble than you think.

Caution, if that devilish voice of hers makes it back into the conversation, you might want to keep your mouth shut for your own safety — especially if she starts laughing like that guy in Michael Jackson’s “Thriller.”

She’s a habitual liar
At first, it was funny that she never really had a little dog named Fido. The white lie she told you about never getting your mother’s dinner invitation was harmless. The fib she told you about being a dance instructor was strange. The lie she told you about not following you to work was scary. Do you see a pattern here?

Here’s what you gotta do to get out safely…

Don’t treat her badly
If you’re mean to her, she’ll stick to you like a moth to a flame. Remember, the fact that you’re even more unattainable makes her attraction all the more fatal. Be nice; those are the guys that usually finish last, and that’s where you want to be on her list.

Become crazier
If she begins to believe that you’re not her soul mate, or that you’re the psycho, then she might consider moving on.

Do a background check
In extreme cases, you should consider snooping into her past. Ask her friends and family about her past relationships, or try speaking to her ex-boyfriends. And yes, it is definitely a bad sign if there are no traces of any of her past lovers.

Cover your back
Before actually going through with the breakup, make sure you have all your angles covered. You don’t want to do anything that will make her resentful towards you and eventually seek revenge on you or your future lover.

Be aware
She might begin following or spying on you to see if you’re with another woman. I recommend that you hold off on bringing another woman into your life until you’re sure that the Firecracker is completely out of the way.

Keep records and reports with authorities
If she begins to stalk you or make threats, report it to the police right away. You need to have a history of complaints in order to cover your back if and when she decides to make false accusations against you. Keeping records and opening a file on your particular case will also help with the restraining order — if needed, of course.

Get a restraining order
If you find that you cannot lead a normal life without constantly watching your back out of fear of Firecracker retaliation, then maybe it is time to take legal action.

Move away
A restraining order serves as a wakeup call, letting the Firecracker know that you’re serious about no longer wanting to see her.

However, it only works on people who are willing to follow it; it doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re out of danger. If you feel that she’s still an explosive hazard, then move to another city without leaving a trace.

it’s not normal

If you feel like you’re walking on eggshells or can’t communicate with her without suffering her wrath every single time — especially if you feel stressed, scared or nauseous — then chances are you’re dating a Firecracker.

Dating and being in love should be fun. Although not always a walk in the park, it should not result in the suffocation of a person’s freedoms. If you feel that you have no rights or no say in the relationship, then maybe it’s time to end the relationship in its early stages before things really get out of hand.


How to prepare for an interview

Are you preparing for an interview? Are you looking forward to actually getting the job?
Here are a few tips to help you out.

Prepare for an interviewHow to Prepare for an interview

Getting Started

Here is some information that may help you to successfully overcome the hurdles of attending an interview. Some of them you may find obvious, but sometimes we can forget the most obvious things!
This guide is broken down into four sections:

  1. Before the interview
  2. On the day of the interview
  3. The interview itself (including practice interview quiz)
  4. Potential questions for you to ask

Before the Interview

Preparation for an interview is an absolutely key process and will often be the difference between success and failure for applicants. Good preparation not only gives you an idea of what to expect but it will give you the all important confidence, which can carry you through.
So what specific preparation should you carry out?
Company Research:
Interviewers will expect you to have a good grasp of what the company does, how big it is, how it is divided up and who it’s main competitors are. With these facts at your command you will be able to hold a meaningful conversation about the company and put other company information into context.
Role Research:
You need to make sure you have fully understood the job description and know how it fits in to the overall company structure. If you have any queries about it then try to raise them before the interview or be prepared to bring them up as you go along.
Ask yourself what the key skills are that the job requires and think of examples of occasions when you have demonstrated those skills.
Interview Research:
Make sure you find out what format the interview will take. Often they can be combinations of standard interviews and role-specific tests (such as role plays or psychometric questionnaires). The fewer surprises on the day, the better.
Personal Appraisal:
You can never predict every question that you will encounter, so approach the interview with an inventory of important points.
Make a list of the points about yourself that you want the interviewer to know. For example, if you were to apply for a job as a Sales Representative, you might want to list the products you have sold before, types of customers (by industry, age, etc.), languages spoken, personal experience in that industry and related knowledge (perhaps from your academic program).
Each question will be an opportunity to provide some of this information to the interviewer.

On the day of the Interview

Take special care to dress appropriately – most of the time smart business dress will be appropriate. In some rare occasions, smart casual may be appropriate but ensure you err on the side of smartness.
Make sure you are punctual – try to arrive at least 15 minutes before your scheduled interview time. If you are going to be late for any reason then make sure you inform the interviewer as early as possible.

The Interview itself

Some important points to remember:

  • Don’t assume anything. You will be evaluated on your answers, not your CV. Therefore, ensure you incorporate the relevant information from your CV in your answers.
  • Pause a couple of seconds before you respond to each question, even if you know exactly what you want to say. Take this time to quickly plan your answer, this helps to avoid misunderstandings and produces much more concise answers.
  • If you don’t understand a question, ask for clarification. This is expected and is preferable to providing an unsuitable answer.
  • If you need time to collect your thoughts – take it. When people are nervous they tend either to “draw a blank” or to babble. It is better to think for a few moments and make sure that your answer is doing you justice and that there is a point to what you are saying.
  • Always expand. Never answer a question with a “yes” or “no.”
  • The interview is an opportunity for you to sell yourself. Don’t be afraid to ‘blow your own trumpet’. As long as you can back up what you are saying with examples which demonstrate that what you are saying is true, you are not bragging. Third party observations can also be mentioned. For example, “My last employer told me that I was promoted because of how I handled conflicts with clients.”
  • Be very positive. Don’t complain about anything – from your former employer to the weather – and don’t apologise for experience that you don’t have. Just sell what you do have and let the employer decide if you have what he/she is looking for. Also, avoid negative words. For example, you would not say “I have a little experience…,” you would say “I have experience…”
  • Don’t be afraid to repeat important points. In fact, it is a good idea to do this.
  • In terms of your manner and body language, try to ensure the following – be confident, positive and look directly at the interviewer when you talk and listen, speak clearly, be enthusiastic and express a keen interest in the position, keep to the point and be concise and always be honest.

Interviews generally follow a set pattern. The interviewer will:-

  • Tell you about the company and the job.
  • Ask you questions to assess your abilities, personality and motivation.
  • Ask if you have any questions.
  • Inform you of the next stage of the process and when a final decision will be made.

The most important thing to remember is that the interview is a two way process. You are there to find out information about them as much as they are there to find out about you. This is your chance to find out information that isn’t in the job description and this can help you make an informed decision about whether you definitely want the job.
To help you succeed at interview we have prepared a random interview question generator, which displays questions selected from a list of over a hundred. You can use this to try to think about how you might answer the questions in an interview situation.

Potential questions for you to ask

  • Can you tell me more about the company?
  • Can you describe my area of responsibility?
  • Is this post a new or existing one?
  • What are the promotion prospects?
  • Is there a clearly defined career path?
  • Do you run any training schemes?
  • What type of clients do you deal with?
  • Will you be holding second interviews?