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Nobody’s baby but mine * Susan Elizabeth Phillips

I have dived deep into the Chicago Stars series with Susan Elizabeth Phillips * Natural Born Charmer and now “Nobody’s baby but mine”.
It’s the story of genius physics professor, Dr. Jane Darlington, who after reaching her 34th birthday decides to have a baby by any means. Afraid that going to a sperm bank will leave her with a med student ‘s high-iq sperm, she agrees to her neighbour’s scheme to be the high-class hooker for Cal Bonner’s birthday.
It was very lucky that her ovulation period fell on the same date as the hunk’s birthday!

Cal Bonner is perfect for her. A warrior, muscular and strong but dumb as a whistle, she performs her “seduction” and after two meetings, she’s pregnant!
Unfortunately, this good ol’ boy is a lot smarter than he lets on, and he’s not about to be used by a brainy, baby-mad schemer.

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Book Reviews

Chicken Soup for the Mother’s soul * 101 Stories

I read this lovely book while sitting on a 2h commute and I think I laughed and I cried and I felt like having a baby just here and now.  I recommend this book to any new mother to be – either by adopting, using a carrier mommy or even by carrying the little bundle of joy to term. The stories are about the pains of giving birth, the love of a new human being and how tough the first few months are while the new mom struggles with the massive difference between the idea of perfection and the messy reality of having a baby. It’s not only new moms that are features but also new dads, those little talked about parents who impact a little baby’s life so profoundly.

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Growing Up

EVERYONE GIVES ADVICE TO THE NEW MOM

This probably happens to the majority of the women that recently became mothers for the first time: they feel as if they really know nothing about taking care of the baby, feeding him, what to do when he doesn’t seem to stop crying, how to dress the little one. Of course, immediately older relatives or friends that have children appear and everyone is competing to give you the best advice. And the amount of advice is huge but many of the indications contradict themselves.

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Astrology

Astrology and Family Planning by V M Natu

During the last few years while concentrating on study of medical astrology, some details have been collected by me from different sources which are useful considering family planning by astrology and have been penned down in this article.

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Baby Care

Teaching a toddler to walk

Exercise is essentially important to the health of the infant. Its first exercise, of course, will be in the nurse’s arms.

Close up of baby grabbing feet
Close up of baby grabbing feet

After a month or two, when it begins to sleep less during the day, it will delight to roll and kick about on the sofa: it will thus use its limbs freely; and this, with carrying out into the open air, is all the exercise it requires at this period. By and by, however, the child will make its first attempts to walk. Now it is important that none of the many plans which have been devised to teach a child to walk, should be adopted the go-cart, leading-strings, etc.; their tendency is mischievous; and flatness of the chest, confined lungs, distorted spine, and deformed legs, are so many evils which often originate in such practices.

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Baby Care

Safety tips for kids

What we should do?

Cute baby sleeping

1, Always keep the baby neat and clean.

2, Cut the nails properly with utmost care.

3, Wet nappy should be removed and parts should be cleaned with soap.

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Book Reviews

The Little House – Phillipa Gregory

Moving into a new house with your beloved husband and having a baby could be every woman’s dream. What if it becomes her nightmare?
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A contemporary psychological thriller in the style of Ruth Rendell, from one of today’s most versatile and compelling storytellers. It was easy for Elizabeth. She married the man she loved, bore him two children and made a home for him which was the envy of their friends. It was harder for Ruth. She married Elizabeth’s son and then found that, somehow, she could never quite measure up! Isolation, deceit and betrayal fill the gaps between the two individual women and between their different worlds. In this complex thriller, Philippa Gregory deploys all her insight into what women want and what women fear, as Ruth confronts the shifting borders of her own sanity. Laying bare the comfortable conventions of rural England, this spine-tingling novel pulses with suspense until the whiplash double-twist of the denouement.

Jules’s Review

5 stars
I must say I never expected that this book would be so good! The cover showed a woman sad and depressed and I thought this would be another story in the style of Jodi Picault in which a major psychological drama will leave you feeling sad for days.
I was prepared when I started reading and without knowing I found myself drawn in into the story.
Ruth is the main character of the story. She’s an accomplished journalist (so a woman with a career) who unfortunately lost her parents in an accident when she was younger.
Looking for her family was a part of her life until she met Phillip (her current husband) who gave her a family (his mother and his father). Polite people, they loved their son over anything and accepted her into their house with open arms.
Ruth could not feel at ease though with them and when they tell them that the house down the road is for sale, Phillip decides to move there against her wish.
Now the funny part with this story is that she does not actually have anything in this life that is hers and hers alone. The apartment where they were living in was owned by his father and he could sell it when he wanted. His father also bought the new house and his mother decorated it for her.
If I had this much involvement from my in-laws into my life, I would go mad. And I think this is where the story got it right.
The “non-interfering”, always there, perfect housewife of a mother-in-law, who always thinks that you are not good enough for her boy, a spoilt husband that could never stand up and do what he needs to do to keep his family happy (let’s say momma’s boy) – the type who does not like to lift a finger around the house and thinks this is his wife’s “job” and a young mother (Ruth) suddenly found herself with a baby she had not planned for, without a job, with a difficult birth and generally alienated from friends in the distant house.
Loved the book. Loved the subtleness of inter-generations conflicts and the pattern into which some women are expected to fall when they become mothers and wifes.
I would not let anyone tell me what to do (and actually do it – I’d let them talk and do it my way either way). I would feel suffocated if anyone chose in my place WHERE I should live, WHAT I should eat and HOW my child would be raised.
Independence is a great asset and individuality should not be forgotten when entering a marriage.
Favourite Scene: When she kills her mother-in-law and gets away with it. Sorry for the spoiler.
Last favourite scene: The alienation and the inability to care for your baby. OK, I understand the C-section and the first milking, but if it were me, I would have tried to breast feed him until I got it right and not given up straight away with “ooh, the baby hates me” thoughts.

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Baby Care

Baby's Naptime

s3 1024If your baby is not napping well during her first few months of life, you may want to try to cut back on the time she is awake by 15 minute increments. If she is getting overstimulated, then she will fight sleep and be difficult to get to nap. The way to prevent this is to watch her ôsleepyö cues to make sure that you put her down when she is beginning to get sleepy.
Some parents believe that letting their child cry will harm him or her. Fifteen or twenty minutes of crying will not harm your child physically or mentally. Babies will learn to self-soothe and fall asleep by themselves, but only if you let her. It is very important that babies learn to fall asleep by themselves so that they can self-soothe if they awake in the middle of the night. Otherwise, you may have a child that will not sleep through the night for years.
Regular sleep patterns are intermeshed with regular eating patterns, so let us look at the stages of a babyÆs life:
* Newborn: Your newborn will sleep anywhere from 16 to 20 hours a day, including the naps that he takes between feedings. When your baby has been fed, let him stay awake for a short while and then put him down before he becomes overstimulated.
* Two months: At two months and older, your child should be allowed to try to self-soothe during their naptimes and bedtime. Crying is normal when you put your baby down, but it is okay. If he cries for longer than 10-15 minutes, then go in and check on him. Don’t get him up, but pat his bottom or lightly rub his back until he calms down.
* 3-6 months: At around 3-6 months, your baby will stop taking one of his naps. Usually it is the third nap or late afternoon nap that they do not need as much. He may be a little fussy and may want to take a little nap, but you need to try to keep him up if you want him to go to bed at a decent time and sleep soundly through the night.
* 16+ months: When your child is between 16-20 months, they usually quit taking the morning nap in favor of a longer nap in the afternoons. Babies this age usually sleep between 10-12 hours a night and take a 2-3 hour afternoon nap.
Ground Rules about Naps
1. You decide when the nap starts and ends, not the baby.
2. When your baby is older than 4 months old, she will wake up crying if she hasnÆt slept enough. She might have a dirty diaper, be in a position that is not comfortable, or cold/hot. Fix the problem and encourage her to go back to sleep. Babies that have enough rest wake up happy, talking, and in a good mood.

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Baby Care

Autumn – EXPOSURE OF INFANTS TO OPEN AIR

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The respiration of a pure air is at all times, and under all circumstances, indispensable to the health of the infant. The nursery therefore should be large, well ventilated, in an elevated part of the house, and so situated as to admit a free supply both of air and light. For the same reasons, the room in which the infant sleeps should be large, and the air frequently renewed; for nothing is so prejudicial to its health as sleeping in an impure and heated atmosphere. The practice, therefore, of drawing thick curtains closely round the bed is highly pernicious; they only answer a useful purpose when they defend the infant from any draught of cold air.
The proper time for taking the infant into the open air must, of course, be determined by the season of the year, and the state of the weather. “A delicate infant born late in the autumn will not generally derive advantage from being carried into the open air, in this climate, till the succeeding spring; and if the rooms in which he is kept are large, often changed, and well ventilated, he will not suffer from the confinement, while he will, most probably, escape catarrhal affections, which are so often the consequence of the injudicious exposure of infants to a cold and humid atmosphere.” If, however, the child is strong and healthy, no opportunity should be lost of taking it into the open air at stated periods, experience daily proving that it has the most invigorating and vivifying influence upon the system. Regard, however, must always be had to the state of the weather; and to a damp condition of the atmosphere the infant should never be exposed, as it is one of the most powerful exciting causes of consumptive disease. The nurse-maid, too, should not be allowed to loiter and linger about, thus exposing the infant unnecessarily, and for an undue length of time; this is generally the source of all the evils which accrue from taking the babe into the open air.

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Baby Care

Baby Crying 101

Communication – that’s what a baby’s crying is for. This sweet thing that suddenly turn into a fit of tears is just craving for your sweeter attention. All cultures in the world nod to this pattern all infants are accustomed to.
A baby cries the most during his or her first three months. Though the amount of crying steadily increase, the crying time period may vary from an hour to most of the day and this could still be considered within normal range. Like, whoah, right? Babies are also known as howling tear factories.
Some thought that a baby cries more during the afternoon accounting it to the anxiousness of the mother or the stressed mood of the father after going home from work. But the most accepted assumption now is that babies have this automatic screening ability they use to shut off all the noise that may stimulate some response from them so they could get enough rest. But in the long run, this filter weakens and totally disappears during the approximate age of six weeks. This, then, make a baby very sensitive to the external factors such as noise, movements, etc. And these generally elicit a reaction from a baby and how best could he or she respond but only through crying.
There are many reasons why a baby succumbs to crying. Deciphering these reasons is the major feat a parent must surmount. Here are some of the things your sweetsome baby is making you understand through crying.
Hunger. Yes, your attention-hungry baby is craving to let you know that his tummy is grumbling. This is the most common reason for a baby to cry, especially, during his early months. The pattern of the hunger howl could be characterized as being persistent, demanding and almost rhythmical. But that rhythm is not at any rate close to becoming musical, of course.
crying-baby-0509-lgBoredom. What can I say? Aren’t these babies just plain spoiled? Crying because of boredom, errr, I’d find that a bit more twisted or weird if it’s with an adult that is. But babies are really built like this. Crying is their way of telling you, “Hey get me a life here!” Aside from attention and food, consequently, babies need a lot of stimulation. And when they don’t get this, there you get your waaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhh!!! The trick is to pick the baby up and play with him. This move may be frowned upon by some because of its amounting to spoiling the baby. But it is important to know that stimulation is also one of the major necessities of an infant and it won’t hurt to provide him with some while in his growing age. This boredom cry is said to be also rhythmical and full of sobs and moans.
Discomfort. Pain is another precursor of the baby’s crying. Who won’t cry when in pain, right? Babies are not Major Paynes to endure the most excruciating discomfort they could undergo. They are little, vulnerable beings that need to be attended to when injured or when in an inconvenient situation. This cry could be more persistent, louder and more demanding. Shrieking and screaming, those are words that better describe the crying pattern roused by pain.
Another cause may be disturbance; surely, howling will proceed just when they’re about to sleep or are already fast asleep and suddenly gets surprised by some noise, or movement. An illness that causes discomfort to a baby may also be the reason for a baby’s bursting into fit of tears.