As you’re probably aware, the subconscious runs the general brain programs. When you’re using your conscious brain to think, plan, visualise or contemplate, the subconscious runs the rest of the show. It runs us on autopilot. That autopilot is in the ‘on’ position, about 95 percent of the time.
If your neural networks have been practising following your calling, being comfortable about being uncomfortable while you are focusing – that’s what will continue to happen when your subconscious runs the show.
Neurons that fire together, wire together. The more the specific pathway is used, the more it grows.
Your brain’s circuitry, is modelled on how the universe operates at it’s core. What we focus on, grows larger. What you regularly give your attention to, increases the affinity to that pathway and your brain, body and focus becomes more efficient and interested.
Alternatively, when you continually give up on your calling, complain, make excuses and choose the stance of victim-hood, the corresponding network of neurons slowly faces attrition. When that pathway is no longer used, it is culled to make room for more of the complaints and actively looks for more reasons to complain or give up.
Bottom line: you become what you habitually do. And the more you do it, the more you’ll get good at it.
But let’s be honest, it’s not always easy
If you’re in this category of standing out because of your colour, creed, orientation, gender, ability, belief, wealth, or education, then realise these structures might make following your calling more difficult. However, you can succeed. Overcoming these and other obstacles are part of your unique journey.
Stop blaming and start taking responsibility
Instead of letting your dream be deferred, I would love for you instead for you to take a moment and make these dreams a reality.
What happens to you when you defer a dream?
Depression, PTSD, loss of hope to name a few. When you’re forced to give up on your passion or give it up under duress, it can cause physical changes to your brain. Your neurotransmitters change, the signals within the brain and to the rest of the body change. It can cause a listlessness, a lack of direction.
You can feel a sense of loss or grief.
Perhaps you lose your way, not knowing why you are here and forgetting who you really are. It’s the makings of a crisis of meaning. One manifestation is the so-called dark night of the soul.
Even living in poverty or constant struggle effects the brain and its structures. These have long term implications on your epigenome and can have lingering effects from previous generations.
In short, it makes it harder to succeed in the future.